{"id":6508,"date":"2026-09-28T15:53:06","date_gmt":"2026-09-28T15:53:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/?p=6508"},"modified":"2026-10-01T16:26:27","modified_gmt":"2026-10-01T16:26:27","slug":"de-ce-ne-este-atat-de-greu-sa-spunem-ce-ne-place-in-pat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/de-ce-ne-este-atat-de-greu-sa-spunem-ce-ne-place-in-pat\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce ne este at\u00e2t de greu s\u0103 spunem ce ne place \u00een pat?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><strong>Despre ru\u0219ine, frica de a fi judecat\u0103 \u0219i momentul \u00een care \u201ee bine \u0219i a\u0219a\u201d \u00eencepe s\u0103 ne coste pl\u0103cerea<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 un moment foarte interesant \u00een multe experien\u021be sexuale: \u0219tim c\u0103 ceva nu ne place, dar nu spunem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate pentru c\u0103 nu vrem s\u0103 stric\u0103m atmosfera. Poate pentru c\u0103 ne este team\u0103 s\u0103 nu r\u0103nim orgoliul celuilalt. Poate pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tim cum s\u0103 formul\u0103m. Sau poate pentru c\u0103, undeva \u00een mintea noastr\u0103, exist\u0103 ideea c\u0103 o femeie care \u0219tie foarte clar ce vrea sexual este \u201eprea mult\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A\u0219a c\u0103 z\u00e2mbim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Spunem \u201eda\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Continu\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, uneori, ne prefacem chiar c\u0103 ne place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"825\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-825x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-825x1024.png 825w, https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-242x300.png 242w, https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-10x12.png 10w, https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-768x953.png 768w, https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers-600x744.png 600w, https:\/\/erosia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Cozy-Bed-with-Flowers.png 967w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 825px) 100vw, 825px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu neap\u0103rat pentru c\u0103 nu ne pas\u0103 de propria pl\u0103cere. Ci pentru c\u0103, \u00een momentul respectiv, <strong>disconfortul de a vorbi ni se pare mai mare dec\u00e2t disconfortul de a continua<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Doar c\u0103, atunci c\u00e2nd acest lucru se repet\u0103, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva important: partenerul \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 c\u0103 ceea ce face func\u021bioneaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar noi \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 t\u0103cem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i \u00eentre cele dou\u0103 apare un cerc destul de greu de rupt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>De ce este at\u00e2t de complicat s\u0103 spunem \u201easta \u00eemi place\u201d?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen teorie, pare foarte simplu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place ceva, spui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi place, spui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 vrei altceva, ceri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen realitate, sexualitatea nu se desf\u0103\u0219oar\u0103 \u00eentr-un laborator steril, \u00een care dou\u0103 persoane schimb\u0103 informa\u021bii obiective despre preferin\u021bele lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00eentr-un spa\u021biu \u00een care exist\u0103 vulnerabilitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Suntem goi. Suntem privi\u021bi. Suntem atin\u0219i. Suntem excita\u021bi. Uneori suntem nesiguri. Uneori ne compar\u0103m. Uneori ne \u00eentreb\u0103m dac\u0103 ar\u0103t\u0103m bine. Alteori ne \u00eentreb\u0103m dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt ne g\u0103se\u0219te suficient de atr\u0103g\u0103toare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i exact \u00een acel moment ni se cere, practic, s\u0103 fim foarte clare despre ce vrem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu este \u00eentotdeauna u\u0219or.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mai ales dac\u0103 ai \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat de mic\u0103 s\u0103 fii atent\u0103 la confortul celorlal\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 nu deranjezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 nu fii dificil\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 nu ceri prea mult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 nu faci pe cineva s\u0103 se simt\u0103 prost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 fii \u201edr\u0103gu\u021b\u0103\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aceste reguli sociale pot intra cu noi \u0219i \u00een dormitor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i atunci apare o contradic\u021bie: <strong>vrem intimitate, dar ne este team\u0103 s\u0103 fim complet autentice \u00een interiorul ei.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u201eNu vreau s\u0103-l fac s\u0103 se simt\u0103 prost\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aceasta este una dintre cele mai frecvente forme de autocenzur\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eDac\u0103 \u00eei spun c\u0103 nu-mi place, o s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 nu e bun.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eDac\u0103 \u00eei spun c\u0103 vreau altceva, o s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eel critic.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eDac\u0103 \u00eel opresc, poate se simte respins.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eDac\u0103 \u00eei spun c\u0103 prefer alt ritm, poate crede c\u0103 a f\u0103cut ceva gre\u0219it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar exist\u0103 o diferen\u021b\u0103 \u00eentre a critica o persoan\u0103 \u0219i a comunica o preferin\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 spui \u201emai \u00eencet\u201d, nu spui \u201enu \u0219tii ce faci\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 spui \u201ea\u0219 prefera s\u0103 faci asta\u201d, nu spui \u201ee\u0219ti un partener slab\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 spui \u201enu vreau asta\u201d, nu spui \u201enu te vreau pe tine\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Spui doar ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 <strong>\u00een corpul t\u0103u, \u00een acel moment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i asta este informa\u021bie relevant\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De fapt, f\u0103r\u0103 ea, cel\u0103lalt trebuie s\u0103 ghiceasc\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar sexul nu devine mai bun pentru c\u0103 ambii oameni \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 ghiceasc\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Ne-am obi\u0219nuit s\u0103 fim \u201eu\u0219or de mul\u021bumit\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 \u0219i o presiune mai subtil\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aceea de a nu avea prea multe cerin\u021be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 nu fii femeia care spune c\u0103 are nevoie de timp. Sau de lubrifiere. Sau de un anumit ritm. Sau de mai mult\u0103 stimulare. Sau de lumin\u0103 mai pu\u021bin\u0103. Sau de lini\u0219te. Sau de o anumit\u0103 pozi\u021bie. Sau pur \u0219i simplu c\u0103 ast\u0103zi nu are chef de ceva ce ieri i-a pl\u0103cut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen imaginarul popular, femeia \u201ese las\u0103 dus\u0103 de val\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i sigur, uneori chiar asta este pl\u0103cut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar s\u0103 te la\u0219i dus\u0103 de val nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 ignori ceea ce sim\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uneori, spontaneitatea real\u0103 apare tocmai atunci c\u00e2nd exist\u0103 suficient\u0103 siguran\u021b\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 po\u021bi spune:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201eNu, stai. A\u0219a e mai bine.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>C\u00e2nd \u201ee bine \u0219i a\u0219a\u201d \u00eencepe s\u0103 te \u00eendep\u0103rteze de propriul corp<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O experien\u021b\u0103 sexual\u0103 care nu este extraordinar\u0103 nu este automat o problem\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu fiecare partid\u0103 de sex trebuie s\u0103 fie memorabil\u0103. Uneori suntem obosite. Uneori suntem distra\u0219i. Uneori corpurile noastre pur \u0219i simplu nu coopereaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Problema apare atunci c\u00e2nd \u201ee bine \u0219i a\u0219a\u201d devine standardul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd te obi\u0219nuie\u0219ti s\u0103 treci peste lucrurile care nu \u00ee\u021bi plac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd \u00eencepi s\u0103 consideri c\u0103 orgasmul t\u0103u este un bonus, \u00een timp ce pl\u0103cerea partenerului este obiectivul principal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd te concentrezi at\u00e2t de mult pe reac\u021bia lui \u00eenc\u00e2t ui\u021bi s\u0103 observi ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 cu tine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, mai ales, c\u00e2nd ajungi s\u0103 nu mai \u0219tii dac\u0103 ceva \u00ee\u021bi place sau doar ai devenit foarte bun\u0103 la a-l tolera.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta este o diferen\u021b\u0103 important\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Toleran\u021ba nu este acela\u0219i lucru cu pl\u0103cerea.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u0218i atunci apare \u00eentrebarea: \u201eDar dac\u0103 nu \u0219tiu ce \u00eemi place?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perfect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate c\u0103 una dintre cele mai mari presiuni puse asupra sexualit\u0103\u021bii feminine este ideea c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 avem deja un \u201emanual de utilizare\u201d pentru propriul corp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 \u0219tim ce ne place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cum ne place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2t ne place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce ne excit\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce ne aduce orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce fantezii avem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce pozi\u021bii prefer\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce ne place s\u0103 auzim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, dac\u0103 nu avem toate r\u0103spunsurile, avem impresia c\u0103 ceva nu este \u00een regul\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar sexualitatea nu func\u021bioneaz\u0103 a\u0219a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Te po\u021bi descoperi pe parcurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi afla la 25 de ani ceva ce nu \u0219tiai la 20.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi descoperi la 35 c\u0103 ceva ce credeai c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place nu \u00ee\u021bi mai place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi avea perioade \u00een care e\u0219ti foarte curioas\u0103 \u0219i perioade \u00een care nu ai chef s\u0103 experimentezi nimic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 fii foarte sigur\u0103 \u00een privin\u021ba unei preferin\u021be \u0219i complet indecis\u0103 \u00een privin\u021ba alteia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nu exist\u0103 obliga\u021bia de a avea toate r\u0103spunsurile.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Cunoa\u0219terea propriului corp schimb\u0103 conversa\u021bia<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Este mult mai u\u0219or s\u0103 spui \u201e\u00eemi place asta\u201d atunci c\u00e2nd ai avut ocazia s\u0103 observi ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een propriul corp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta poate \u00eensemna masturbare, explorare, aten\u021bie la senza\u021bii sau pur \u0219i simplu curiozitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 fie ceva sofisticat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate \u00eensemna s\u0103 observi c\u0103 anumite atingeri te relaxeaz\u0103, \u00een timp ce altele te fac s\u0103 te \u00eencordezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 uneori ai nevoie de mai mult timp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 pentru tine excita\u021bia nu apare instantaneu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 anumite lucruri func\u021bioneaz\u0103 doar c\u00e2nd te sim\u021bi \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 uneori mintea ta este cea care are nevoie s\u0103 ajung\u0103 din urm\u0103 corpul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Toate acestea sunt informa\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar cu c\u00e2t \u00ee\u021bi cuno\u0219ti mai bine reac\u021biile, cu at\u00e2t este mai u\u0219or s\u0103 le comunici.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu pentru a transforma sexul \u00eentr-un set de instruc\u021biuni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ci pentru a putea fi prezent\u0103 \u00een propria experien\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u201eNu \u0219tiu\u201d este \u0219i el un r\u0103spuns<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 o diferen\u021b\u0103 foarte mare \u00eentre:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu \u0219tiu ce \u00eemi place.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0219i<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu am voie s\u0103 nu \u0219tiu.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prima este pur \u0219i simplu o etap\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A doua este presiune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 fii \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 descoperi lucruri noi despre tine dup\u0103 ani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 ai un partener cu care ai f\u0103cut sex de sute de ori \u0219i s\u0103 observi c\u0103 ceva se schimb\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eencerci ceva \u0219i s\u0103 spui:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 \u00eemi place. Mai \u00eencerc\u0103m o dat\u0103?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu cred c\u0103 este pentru mine.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau chiar:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu \u0219tiu ce vreau acum.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i este suficient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sexul nu trebuie s\u0103 continue doar pentru c\u0103 ai \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i o preferin\u021b\u0103 nu trebuie ap\u0103rat\u0103 ca \u00eentr-o dezbatere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Uneori ne este mai u\u0219or s\u0103 spunem ce nu vrem<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aici lucrurile devin interesante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Multe femei pot spune relativ u\u0219or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu vreau asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar le este mult mai greu s\u0103 spun\u0103:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eVreau asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De ce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 prima propozi\u021bie pune o limit\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A doua dezv\u0103luie o dorin\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar dorin\u021ba poate fi mult mai vulnerabil\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd spui \u201evreau s\u0103 m\u0103 atingi aici\u201d, nu doar informezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Te expui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Recuno\u0219ti c\u0103 ai o dorin\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103 ai nevoie de ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i pentru cineva care a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 sexualitatea feminin\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fie mai degrab\u0103 discret\u0103, aceast\u0103 expunere poate fi surprinz\u0103tor de intim\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar tocmai aici \u00eencepe o parte important\u0103 din sexualitatea matur\u0103: <strong>s\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi fie ru\u0219ine c\u0103 ai preferin\u021be.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u201eAsta \u00eemi place\u201d poate fi una dintre cele mai intime propozi\u021bii<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu pentru c\u0103 este explicit\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ci pentru c\u0103 este sincer\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00centr-o rela\u021bie sexual\u0103, exist\u0103 ceva foarte puternic \u00een a putea spune ce sim\u021bi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te temi c\u0103 vei fi ridiculizat\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 po\u021bi spune:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eMai mult.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eMai \u00eencet.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eContinu\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eOpre\u0219te-te.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eVreau s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu vreau asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eAzi nu.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aceste propozi\u021bii nu omoar\u0103 intimitatea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00centr-un context s\u0103n\u0103tos, o construiesc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 intimitatea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 doar s\u0103 fii fizic aproape de cineva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00censeamn\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 po\u021bi fi sincer\u0103 \u00een apropierea aceea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>\u0218i nu orice \u201eda\u201d \u00eenseamn\u0103 acela\u0219i lucru<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 e\u0219ti curioas\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 te sim\u021bi \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i vrei s\u0103 vezi cum este.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar exist\u0103 \u0219i un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 \u021bi-e team\u0103 s\u0103 spui \u201enu\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 dezam\u0103ge\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 ar trebui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un \u201eda\u201d spus pentru c\u0103 ai \u00eenceput deja \u0219i \u021bi se pare prea t\u00e2rziu s\u0103 te r\u0103zg\u00e2nde\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Din exterior, toate arat\u0103 la fel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Din interior, nu sunt deloc la fel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De aceea, comunicarea sexual\u0103 nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 doar s\u0103 ceri ceea ce vrei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00censeamn\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 po\u021bi spune ceea ce <strong>nu<\/strong> vrei, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fii pedepsit\u0103 emo\u021bional pentru asta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>O rela\u021bie sexual\u0103 bun\u0103 nu presupune dou\u0103 persoane care ghicesc perfect<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Presupune dou\u0103 persoane care pot vorbi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Asta este mult mai realist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate vei spune ceva \u0219i cel\u0103lalt va ajusta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate va fi nevoie s\u0103 explici.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate ve\u021bi r\u00e2de pu\u021bin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate prima \u00eencercare nu va fi perfect\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i este \u00een regul\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sexul real nu seam\u0103n\u0103 \u00eentotdeauna cu scenele perfect coregrafiate din filme sau cu sfaturile de pe internet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Este uneori pu\u021bin st\u00e2ngaci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uneori amuzant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uneori surprinz\u0103tor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uneori ai nevoie s\u0103 spui: \u201eStai pu\u021bin, nu a\u0219a.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i tocmai faptul c\u0103 po\u021bi face asta f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 distrugi totul poate fi un semn important de siguran\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eencepi s\u0103 spui?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La \u00eenceput, poate fi ciudat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mai ales dac\u0103 nu ai f\u0103cut-o \u00eenainte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate sim\u021bi c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi auzi propria voce prea tare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate \u00ee\u021bi vine s\u0103 r\u00e2zi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate te \u00eentrebi dac\u0103 ai fost prea direct\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar, cu timpul, comunicarea poate deveni natural\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i exist\u0103 un lucru foarte frumos care se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla atunci: \u00eencepi s\u0103 fii mai prezent\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu mai stai s\u0103 verifici constant dac\u0103 celuilalt \u00eei place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu mai \u00eencerci s\u0103 performezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu mai urm\u0103re\u0219ti dac\u0103 \u201efaci bine\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cencepi s\u0103 observi ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 cu tine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar asta schimb\u0103 experien\u021ba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 sexul nu mai este doar ceva ce faci cu cineva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Devine \u0219i ceva ce <strong>experimentezi \u00een propriul corp<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Pl\u0103cerea nu este o obliga\u021bie, dar merit\u0103 s\u0103 aib\u0103 loc<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu orice partid\u0103 de sex trebuie s\u0103 se termine cu orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu orice experien\u021b\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fie intens\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu orice femeie trebuie s\u0103 aib\u0103 acelea\u0219i preferin\u021be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i nu trebuie s\u0103 transform\u0103m pl\u0103cerea \u00eentr-o nou\u0103 form\u0103 de performan\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar exist\u0103 o diferen\u021b\u0103 \u00eentre a nu avea orgasm \u0219i a nu avea voie s\u0103 conteze ce sim\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00centre a nu \u0219ti ce vrei \u0219i a nu avea voie s\u0103 \u00eentrebi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00centre a fi curioas\u0103 \u0219i a te for\u021ba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00centre compromis \u0219i anularea propriilor nevoi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A vorbi despre sex nu garanteaz\u0103 o experien\u021b\u0103 perfect\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar t\u0103cerea poate face foarte greu ca cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 afle ce \u00ee\u021bi place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Poate c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eencepem cu propozi\u021bii foarte simple<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu cu discu\u021bii complicate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu cu \u201etrebuie s\u0103 avem o conversa\u021bie despre via\u021ba noastr\u0103 sexual\u0103\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ci cu lucruri mici.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eAsta mi-a pl\u0103cut.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eData viitoare vreau s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m din nou.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eAici prefer mai \u00eencet.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eMi-a pl\u0103cut c\u00e2nd ai f\u0103cut asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu m-am sim\u021bit confortabil cu asta.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eA\u0219 vrea s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m ceva diferit.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, poate cea mai important\u0103:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201ePot s\u0103 m\u0103 r\u0103zg\u00e2ndesc?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Da.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Chiar \u0219i dup\u0103 ce ai spus da.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Chiar \u0219i dup\u0103 ce ai \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Chiar \u0219i dac\u0103 data trecut\u0103 \u021bi-a pl\u0103cut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 o preferin\u021b\u0103 nu este un contract.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>La final, poate c\u0103 \u00eentrebarea nu este \u201e\u0219tii ce \u00ee\u021bi place?\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ci:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201eTe sim\u021bi suficient de \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 spui ce \u00ee\u021bi place?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 sunt lucruri diferite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi cuno\u0219ti foarte bine corpul \u0219i totu\u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi fie team\u0103 s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Po\u021bi s\u0103 nu \u0219tii \u00eenc\u0103 exact ce \u00ee\u021bi place \u0219i totu\u0219i s\u0103 ai o rela\u021bie sexual\u0103 \u00een care curiozitatea \u0219i comunicarea sunt binevenite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 fii expert\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 ai un repertoriu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 fii \u201eliber\u0103\u201d \u00eentr-un anumit fel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Trebuie doar s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai voie s\u0103 fii atent\u0103 la ceea ce sim\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, atunci c\u00e2nd po\u021bi, s\u0103 pui \u00een cuvinte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pentru c\u0103 poate cea mai mare schimbare \u00een sexualitatea unei femei nu apare atunci c\u00e2nd descoper\u0103 o tehnic\u0103 nou\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Poate apare atunci c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0219i d\u0103 seama c\u0103 <strong>are voie s\u0103 spun\u0103 ce \u00eei place<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i c\u0103 \u201enu\u201d nu este o problem\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNu \u0219tiu\u201d nu este un e\u0219ec.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eMai \u00eencet\u201d nu este o critic\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eVreau asta\u201d nu este ru\u0219inos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar \u201easta \u00eemi place\u201d poate fi, uneori, \u00eenceputul unei rela\u021bii mult mai bune cu propriul corp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With love,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Erosia<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Despre ru\u0219ine, frica de a fi judecat\u0103 \u0219i momentul \u00een care \u201ee bine \u0219i a\u0219a\u201d \u00eencepe s\u0103 ne coste pl\u0103cerea Exist\u0103 un moment foarte interesant \u00een multe experien\u021be sexuale: \u0219tim c\u0103 ceva nu ne place, dar nu spunem. Poate pentru c\u0103 nu vrem s\u0103 stric\u0103m atmosfera. Poate pentru c\u0103 ne este team\u0103 s\u0103 nu r\u0103nim [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[1181,53,466,1203,50,465,1180,458,464],"class_list":["post-6508","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog","tag-autocunoastere","tag-intimitate","tag-intimitatea-si-bunastare-emotionalaa","tag-relatii","tag-ritual-senzual","tag-sanatate-mentala","tag-selfcare","tag-senzualitate","tag-sexul-si-sanatatea"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6508","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6508"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6508\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6512,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6508\/revisions\/6512"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6508"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6508"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erosia.ro\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6508"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}